You have watched your little precious son or daughter grow up, you have guided, advised, loved and wiped away many of their tears over the years. Now your child is all grown up and is taking the step towards marriage to live, love, grow and flourish with the support of an additional someone special in their life.
Although you are excited and overjoyed to welcome another person into the family it is okay to feel a little overwhelmed and be full of mixed emotions. It’s a big change, maybe like the first time they started driving on their own, moved out of home or travelled overseas without you. All these momentous steps have played a part in their growth and you have encouraged them along the way.
It’s important to remember that you have done well, you have raised a little person into an adult that has fallen in love with someone and wants to spend their rest of their lives with that person. What remains now is helping them to prepare for marriage, the wedding day and the marriage are two very different things, your job as mum is never done and you can never be replaced, you are needed to show them the way, continuing to love and support.
We could give you a list of pointers as to what you should do as a mother of the bride or groom, but we know that your relationship with them is as unique as the next. If we could give you any advice, it would be to listen and to act out of love, putting their needs before your own, showing patience and kindness. This generosity will strengthen your relationship during this time of planning helping both you and the bride or groom to remember the lead up to the big day as one full of positive memories.
The time spent on and before the big day is really important too. My Mama was really hands-on whilst I was planning my wedding. She’s always enjoyed planning and hosting grand and celebratory life events, so of course she wanted to be in charge of a number of details for our day. While she did a FABULOUS job with everything to make our day perfect, she had to work so hard the night before and the day of our wedding to ensure everything was set up correctly. She’s probably not going to be happy I’m posting this publicly, but I didn’t find out until after the wedding that she was up most of the night before our wedding getting everything ready. On a day as important as her daughter’s wedding, my Mama didn’t get to sleep the night before, or enjoy time with me as I was getting ready because she was running around making sure everything was taken care of. If I could go back and change just one thing about our wedding day, I would have hired a coordinator for the day to take care of those things so I could spend that time instead with my Mama. So she could be there with me and my bridesmaids while we were singing, dancing, drinking champagne, and getting dolled up for our grand entrance down the aisle. We did have a few special moments that were captured of us while I was getting ready, and for that I’m thankful, but we had to steal her away in between her tasks to get those special moments.
We work with mums all the time, getting a full brief of what they want handled on the day, we see the day with the same importance that our couples and parents do, as a result having so many successful wedding days. If you would like to find our more about our service contact us on 1300 767 710 or email@example.com.