We usually handle money in the same way as our family did, and often assume our way is best. Discuss your views on paying bills, saving and credit cards before you tie the knot. “You need to come up with the new blended way you both will do things. Perhaps have a a major joint account where you both must tell each other what you do, and a slush fund minor private account each where you can be yourself without having to justify what you spend.
Respect and affection
Small gestures matter – if you want your marriage to last, keep reminding each other that you love each other and nurture your relationship with kind words. You need to treat each other preciously and not take one another for granted.
Create your own rituals
It could be as simple as making your husband a coffee in the morning while he lets you lie in at the weekend. Whatever you choose, a ‘couples’ ritual is a way to connect with your partner in the madness of a busy life. “The comfort of little rituals can be trust giving, safety maintaining, and love enhancing.
Learn to communicate
Being able to talk openly with your partner is a sign of a strong marriage. “Develop your skills – go to classes, read books, observe good communicators and interview them about technique, ask for feedback and practice.
Put your marriage first
Having a happy marriage means being prepared to take turns with life’s stages. “You can still work towards your goals, but maybe they will take longer to achieve, because right now you choose to help your husband study for a post grad course, or delay moving interstate so he can care for his elderly father.
Make room for Intimacy
Always make room in your busy schedules by setting aside some private time away from friends or kids. A regular date night followed with some romance is always a winner!