It can be a mission and a half to complete a wedding guest list! Who makes the cut, who doesn’t. And there’s always the inevitable worry that someone will ask why they weren’t invited. Here are some tips on how to handle it and what to say if this question comes at you.
blame it on the size
If you decided to keep your wedding on the smaller side, you can use that as your reasoning to tell people who ask why they didn’t get an invite. Let those people know that they mean a lot to you, and if your circumstances were different that they would be there celebrating this occasion with you. They will be understanding and won’t feel left out.
blame it on the budget
At the end of the day, each individual person can become quite costly by the time you pay for their meal, drinks, even that extra set of sparkly gold cutlery you have. Sometimes, you just have to cut some non-crucial guests to meet the limit of your budget. Explain your situation, they will understand.
blame it on the distance
If you’ve chosen to host your wedding in a far away city, let those guests know that you chose to do a destination wedding and because of this you’re only inviting immediate family and friends. Because travel is an added cost factor for yourself and your guests, you decided that a smaller guest list is the only way to have your dream wedding.
tell the truth
If your wedding isn’t small or far away, and you’ve decided that you just didn’t want that person at your wedding, you can explain to them the true reason why they didn’t get invited. Feel free to open up about it. This may have to be something you do in person, or ask a family member or friend to do for you that is close with them. Be prepared for some hurt feelings, but they would much rather you be honest than telling a fib and finding out the truth later.
Handle it after the day
If you find that it’s too overwhelming in amongst planning, just don’t answer those fired questions until after the day. You can let them know that you will discuss the situation with them after your wedding, and hopefully they will appreciate where you’re at.
Happy Planning! x