When you’re planning a wedding, there are so many people that will put in their two-cents worth. Some of the advice that married people give you (we’re talking about you Aunt Elder that got married 40 years ago!), isn’t always useful, if not potentially harmful! Here is some bad advice that we’ve heard…
“Send them an invite, they won’t come anyway”
Do not invite anyone that you don’t want to attend on the day! Especially if you’re close to capacity with your venue, invite only the number of guests that you can have, assume that everyone will respond attending.
“Tell the guests that the wedding starts earlier than it does”
We get it, everyone has a few guests that are ALWAYS late! But this isn’t the right way about it. You can always place an arrival time on the invite rather than just a start time, to help this situation if you feel it’s needed. Saying that the wedding starts earlier can result in stressed guests that question if the bride and groom will show, and for those guests that are always early or on time, they could be waiting around for a long time.
“Don’t hire a wedding coordinator or planner, I will help you!”
They always mean well, but then they get busy or have something else on, and all of a sudden you have a lot on your plate. There’s always plenty to go around, so if you do have a planner or coordinator and have a family member or friend that wants to pitch in and help, we can always find something for them. Better being safe than sorry!
“Don’t worry about the details, no one will even remember anyway”
If you will remember, then it’s important! If it means you’re creating the wedding of your dreams, include all of those little details.
“Have a large bridal party”
Don’t be afraid to have a small bridal party, 1-3 on each side is plenty! Remember that each member you have can be quite costly by the time you pay for dresses, shoes, hair, makeup, accommodation, so make sure these costs are allocated in your budget. It can be much more meaningful to have a couple of your closest besties by your side, rather than the whole ‘gang’!
“Do your own hair and makeup, it will be fine”
It honestly isn’t worth the stress doing this on your wedding day morning. Plus, you want to look amazing in your photos, so leave it to the pros for this occasion.
Happy Planning! x